The Value of Integrity: More Than Just a Dollar Amount
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Chapter 1: The Personal Cost of Integrity
Imagine receiving devastating news about a loved one's health. This was the reality for Matthew Teague, whose wife, Nicole, faced a grim diagnosis of ovarian cancer. In his powerful essay, "The Friend: Love Is Not a Big Enough Word," published in Esquire in May 2015, Matthew poignantly describes the severity of Nicole’s condition, likening its spread to paint flicked across her abdomen. His honest portrayal of illness and loss not only struck a chord but also inspired the film "Our Friend" (watch the trailer here).
Nicole, in her thirties at the time of diagnosis, initially experienced an outpouring of support from friends and family. However, as her health declined, those visits dwindled—except for one steadfast friend, Dane Faucheux.
Dane, a close college friend of both Matthew and Nicole, stepped in to provide much-needed support. Recognizing the overwhelming burden on the family, he proposed moving in to assist. Matthew welcomed Dane’s offer, leading to nearly two years of unwavering friendship and support.
"In times of need, true friends emerge," Matthew's story illustrates.
Section 1.1: The Reality of Illness
Matthew’s essay does not shy away from the harsh truths of illness. He writes, “We don’t tell each other the truth about dying. Real dying is often grotesque and undignified.” This stark honesty emphasizes the emotional and physical toll of facing death.
Subsection 1.1.1: Dane's Unwavering Support
Dane ultimately sacrificed his job and relationship to be there for Matthew, Nicole, and their children. He assumed responsibilities such as cooking, running errands, and providing emotional support. His dedication exemplifies the essence of friendship: placing others' needs above one's own.
“Do what is right, not what is easy nor what is popular.” — Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
Section 1.2: The Cost of Integrity
Dane remained a constant presence until Nicole's passing, even grappling with his own feelings of sadness after her death. Eventually, he returned to New Orleans, ready to continue his life.
His journey raises an important question: how many of us would have made similar sacrifices?
Chapter 2: Artistic Integrity Over Profit
The story of integrity is not limited to personal relationships. Bill Watterson, the creator of the beloved comic strip Calvin & Hobbes, also faced a critical choice regarding his work. After years of success, Watterson decided against licensing his characters for merchandise, fearing it would compromise their integrity.
In an exhibition catalogue, Watterson argued that artists should have the final say over their creations. By refusing to allow his characters to be commercialized, he turned down over $100 million in potential revenue. This decision exemplifies a steadfast commitment to artistic integrity.
“How many aspiring cartoonists today would refuse such a lucrative offer?” Watterson's legacy prompts us to reflect on the true cost of our choices.
“Integrity is its blunt refusal to be compromised.” — Chinua Achebe
Integrity and Choices
Every day, we face decisions that challenge our integrity. The examples set by Dane and Watterson inspire us to consider what our own integrity is worth.
Dane’s actions highlight the essence of loyalty and friendship, while Watterson’s choices emphasize the value of authenticity in art. Their stories remind us that integrity is not merely an abstract concept but a vital part of our character.
As we navigate life, we should aspire to embody the same integrity that both Dane and Watterson exemplified. Strive to be a true friend and act with honor, for in doing so, we illuminate the world around us.
Before You Go
I’m John P. Weiss. I write insightful essays on life. Join me each weekend for my free Saturday Letter, a perfect companion for quiet contemplation over coffee. Check it out here.