Reflections on My 20s: Lessons Learned and Growth Achieved
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Chapter 1: The Weight of Approval
The notion of revisiting my 20s often fills my thoughts. If given a second chance, how would I navigate life with my current insights and experiences? Would my choices lead to a different outcome?
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Section 1.1: The Pursuit of Validation
During that decade, I was consumed by the need for validation from individuals who, in hindsight, barely matter in my life today. I often reflect on the energy I expended seeking approval from certain people, most of whom I can no longer recall. Back then, it felt as if their opinions were paramount, often robbing me of sleep when faced with disapproval.
Subsection 1.1.1: Moving Beyond Others' Opinions
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Now, I have relinquished the burden of living for the perceptions of others. I recognize my inherent value and capabilities, fostering a sense of self-assurance that propels me toward success. My focus is on self-improvement and surrounding myself with positivity, leaving behind any desire for external validation.
Section 1.2: The Illusion of Effortless Success
In my earlier years, I mistakenly believed that my dream job or ideal life would materialize without effort, relying instead on hope or chance. I had high aspirations but lacked the necessary work ethic. However, success is not a matter of luck or chance; it requires dedication and effort. The likelihood of achieving your dreams without striving for them is akin to winning the lottery.
Chapter 2: Embracing Fear and Change
The first video titled I wasted my 20s explores similar themes of regret and realization.
I underwent a significant transformation in my outlook. Once paralyzed by fear of new experiences—whether it was driving, horseback riding, or simply ordering sushi over the phone—I have since shed those insecurities. What seemed daunting in my youth now appears trivial.
As I pen this reflection, I initially felt I had squandered my 20s. Yet, upon revisiting my words, a profound truth emerged: none of us truly 'wasted' this decade.
Section 2.1: Understanding Our Past
Every single one of us navigated our 20s with the knowledge and skills we had at the time. Regretting our past choices is an unproductive exercise. The reality is that nearly everyone was doing the best they could with the resources available to them, shaping who they are today.
Section 2.2: Self-Compassion and Growth
I often think of my younger self and wish I could reassure her: "You are enough; you deserve happiness; there is nothing wrong with you." However, I recognize that I did what I could with my circumstances, upbringing, and understanding.
It's crucial to refrain from wasting time on regret. Instead, we should focus on learning from our experiences and moving forward.
The second video titled I wasted my early 20s… here are 25 lessons I've learned provides further insights on this journey of growth and self-discovery.